I have been living with my boyfriend in a Jurong HDB flat for two years.
We celebrated our anniversary last month and everything felt normal.
One night I needed to charge my phone and noticed his laptop was still open.
A chat window with his ex was open, full of sweet messages about "missing you" and "next time we meet".
I felt my stomach drop but tried to convince myself it was harmless.
The next day I was sorting our bills and saw a bank statement with a S$1,200 transfer to an unknown account.
The reference line said "gift for you" and the account name matched the ex's initials.
I asked him about it and he brushed it off as a work expense.
Later I found a receipt for a hotel booking in Pasir Ris dated next weekend, under his name.
The booking was for a double room, not a single.
I confronted him and he finally admitted he had been meeting the ex secretly.
He said he was planning to move out and start a new life with her.
He said he would give me a month to find a new place.
I felt betrayed, angry and confused.
I have already paid the deposit for our next HDB renewal and cannot afford to leave now.
I am stuck between staying in a flat that feels like a prison or walking away from someone I loved.
Should I confront him now or wait for him to bring it up
What would you do if your partner hid something this important from you?
